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MindsetWhat Have We Done With What We Know?We humans are state-driven creatures who use beliefs to explain our states after the fact. We think we act on what we know. We don't. We act on how we feel about what we know and then write the justification afterward, in the language of knowledge, so it looks like reason.MindsetWhy We Defend Limiting BeliefsReal change is not knowing more. It is learning to see our beliefs for what they are , mental constructs, not facts and making room for the grief and the freedom of letting them goHabits & ChangeAre You Trying To Change, or Seeking Relief?All writing →