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The self you left behind

Most of us are running a version of ourselves that was assembled to survive a room we are no longer standing in.

The Cinema of Consciousness - How to Direct Your Own Life Story

"We are simultaneously the writer, reader, and director of our own lives.

August 2025

Insights and Strategies for Improved Self-Knowledge

Two men were arguing about a flag flapping in the wind.

March 2024

The Downside of Self-Awareness

Are you constantly monitoring and scrutinizing your thoughts and feelings, often to the point of distraction or anxiety?

January 2024

Wherever You Go, You will Always Find Yourself Where You Left Yourself

Have you ever noticed that no matter where you go or what you do, you always take yourself with you?

January 2024

How to Take Charge of Your Life

Do you struggle to identify and understand your personal needs and wants?

December 2023

Strategies For Developing Self-Reflection

Schedule dedicated time for self-reflection in your daily or weekly routine, taking into account the negative impact of poor sleep on energy levels and how that affects your ability to do anything mindfully

November 2023

The Consequences Of Lying To Yourself

As I sit in the dark of my cabin deep in the woods of southern Sweden at 5:00 in the morning, it’s not an unusual scenario for me to be writing.

April 2023

Nobody is coming to give you permission

Impostor feeling is not a flaw in your self-assessment. It is what happens when you outsourced the verdict and the verdict never came.

The Comparing Mind: A Source of Doubt and Confusion

The comparing mind, a relentless judge and critic, used to plague me with doubt, crippling me with confusion, making me question my abilities and my loved ones.

November 2024

Understanding the Psychology of Validation: A Path to Self-Awareness and Growth

The quest for validation within a group is a fundamental aspect of human behavior, rooted in our evolutionary history as a survival mechanism.

November 2023

How To Break Free From The Approval Trap

Have you ever found yourself trapped in the cycle of seeking approval from others?

October 2023

When Someone Tries To Bury You — Remember That You Are a Seed

If I don’t learn and change, I don’t grow.

September 2023

The exit is always within reach

Every discomfort now has a door out, and we have taken every one of them. We did not become anxious. We became untrained.

Responsibility Without Shame

We have all been taught a lie.

November 2025

The Three Types of Self-Created Suffering

"We create three prisons of time: mourning a past that never truly was, chasing a future self that cannot exist, and refusing to inhabit the only moment we actually possess."

October 2025

Emotional Intelligence: The Missing Key to Practical Wisdom

In the first article in the series “The Invisible Gap Between Knowing and Becoming” , we established a fundamental truth: knowledge alone does not create wisdom .

May 2025

The Healing Process: The Silent Storm Before the Rainbow

You see their smiles, their triumphs, their "after" glow on social media posts.

April 2025

How to Stop Suffering and Find Inner Peace

For many years, I struggled with inner turmoil and emotional chaos.

October 2024

From Overwhelm to Awareness: Cultivating Conscious Living in a Noisy World

Look at you in action!

April 2024

Emotional Intelligence: The Key to Success and Happiness

When you have emotional intelligence, you possess the ability to recognize, understand, and manage your own and others' emotions.

November 2023

Breaking Free From the Chains of Shame: A Journey to Self-Acceptance

Guilt and shame are often used interchangeably, but they are different.

September 2023

Navigating Uncertainty, Conquering Fear, and Finding Purpose

Throughout my life journey, I've witnessed countless moments where I caught myself making excuses.

August 2023

The Negative Impact of Fear and Anger

Our personality traits are crucial for how we choose to live our lives and how we interpret the external forces of life.

June 2023

The cost of saying yes

A boundary is not something you do to someone. It is the only way to stay in the room honestly.

The Architecture of Love: Why Strong Relationships Require Two Complete Individuals

This essay presents a working framework, not absolute truth.

September 2025

How Deep Listening Shapes Your Personal Growth

This article explores how deep listening—beyond mere hearing—is fundamental to personal growth, neurological development, and authentic human connection, challenging us to move beyond our ego-driven responses to achie…

April 2025

When Nonviolent Communication Meets Pragmatic Thinking

In the past, I struggled with effective communication.

October 2024

The Trust Triangle: How Vulnerability and Self-Image Shape Our Connections

Do you have someone in your life you trust—a person with whom you feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings?

October 2024

Letting Go of Negative Judgment: A Journey to Inner Peace and Deeper Connections

We want to connect and feel at peace.

August 2024

Compromise vs. the Gift of Giving

Since kindergarten, most of us have learned that compromise is key to finding common ground and making agreements.

August 2024

Overcoming Defensiveness: A Journey to Personal Growth and Improved Relationships

I battled with defensiveness for many years.

April 2024

A Slow Death by a Thousand Yeses: How Small Commitments Lead to Big Regrets

If this was Anonymous People Pleasers, I’d start by introducing myself.

March 2024

Understanding Self-Defeating Behaviors in Romantic Relationships

When our romantic relationship is going well and everything is in harmony, we give ourselves credit for its success.

December 2023

Navigating Expectations: A Path to Healthier Relationships

If you have unrealistic or rigid expectations for yourself, you will experience hurt and resentment when these expectations are not satisfied.

December 2023

Why You Should Rethink Your Desire to Give Your Children Everything You Didn't Have

I grew up with parents who worked two low-paying jobs.

November 2023

How your Instinctive Need Towards Avoiding Loneliness keeps You Scrolling

Loneliness is a deep and complex emotion.

October 2023

Do You Want to Be Right, or Do You Want To Be In a Relationship?

At its core, a powerful question is designed to make a difference to someone or something; if the question can not be translated into practical knowledge that changes something or someone, we need to ask better questi…

June 2023

What your attention is costing you

Forty-seven seconds on a screen. Twenty-five minutes to come back. We are not distracted — we are being spent.

You Don’t Need More Time, You Need to Decide What Matters

"Time isn't something to be managed—it's something to be invested with intention.

August 2025

Digital Temperance: Reclaiming Focus in the Attention Economy Through Practical Wisdom

This is the fifth part in an article series on practical wisdom.

June 2025

The Spectator Trap: How Infinite Options and Passive Consumption Erode Real Creativity—And How to Reclaim It

When was the last time you created something instead of consuming?

March 2025

The Pareto Principle: How to Use the 80/20 Rule to Transform Your Life

“ The greatest transformation begins when we let go of comfortable inefficiencies and pursue what matters.

January 2025

Mastering Moments and Redefining Reality

"Instead of counting the minutes or hours, focus on the quality of each moment you live.

April 2024

The Minimalistic Mind: Enhancing Clarity, Creativity, and Well-being

When was the last time you turned off your phone, closed the door, and simply sat alone to observe your mind?

January 2024

Getting the Right Things Done in the Right Way

Over the past three years, I have been balancing multiple responsibilities and projects.

January 2024

Proven Strategies for Improving Focus and Concentration

Imagine your concentration as a delicate harmony and your focus as the shaping instrument.

October 2023

Rest is not the absence of work

The difference between rest and avoidance is whether you feel better afterwards. Most of what we call rest fails that test.

The Pause Revolution: Finding Peace in a World That Can't Wait

This article explores our obsession with immediacy—from our ancient survival instincts to our modern technology habits.

April 2025

Slowing Down: A Path for Personal Growth

Regenerative agriculture is a farming method that focuses on improving soil health, biodiversity, and ecosystem resilience.

September 2024

There are Good Days, Bad Days, and There are Days Where we Learn

It's 6:00 in the morning, pitch dark outside, and I'm sitting in front of my microphone in the school auditorium.

January 2024

The Dance Between Doing and Being

Envision the tapestry of your life—vivid threads of achievements, possessions, and actions intricately woven together.

December 2023

Embracing Stress as a Workout Session

Dealing with stress is like hitting the mental gym.

December 2023

The life you’re postponing

There is no rehearsal happening. The ordinary Tuesday is not the waiting room. It is the appointment.

Another Life: The Revolutionary Act of Subtraction

"Change—real change, the whole package of constructive habits and meaningful relationships with oneself and others—is the subtraction of all the crap we don't need."

September 2025

YOLO? No - We Live Many Lives

"While it might seem like we live only one life, we live thousands of lives within one lifetime."

July 2025

The Unwanted Gift: Why Not Getting What You Want is Your Path to Deeper Healing

"The moment your desires remain unfulfilled is precisely when your deepest healing begins—for it is in the absence of what you want that you discover who you are beyond your wants."

July 2025

The Illusion of Separation: Practical Wisdom, Global Responsibility, and Our Everyday Choices

In our journey through practical wisdom so far, we've confronted the fundamental challenge of " The Invisible Gap Between Knowing and Becoming " —the paradox of abundant information but scarce applied wisdom.

June 2025

Practical Wisdom in Action: Building a Legacy of Moral Clarity

“We don't grow alone—it's through our connections with others that growth happens, by sharing insights and embracing the lessons from both successes and failures within our family or community.”

May 2025

When Your Name Fades, What Remains?

Outside my office there is a cemetery that I often cross on my way to check up on—ironically—patients who are dying.

April 2025

Your Life Task: What Life Is Asking of You

Today's cultural view on success and happiness erodes our ability to live life from a place of meaning.

March 2025

Infinite Games: A Life Beyond Winning & Losing

This article explores a transformative approach to personal growth beyond traditional win-lose mindsets.

March 2025

Your Life's Calling: A Journey Beyond Anxiety and Fear

Every noteworthy achievement in history is the product of human capabilities and ingenuity .

February 2025

Redefining Time: Transforming Moments into Meaningful Experiences

I blink, rubbing the sleep from my eyes.

April 2024

If You Don't Design Your Life - Someone Else Will

Ever felt like you’re watching the story of your life unfold with no control?

December 2023

Understanding and Embracing Your Core Values

Lost in the stressors of our daily life, we often overlook the importance of self-reflection, interrupting our ability to understand our values.

December 2023

Creating Value and Embracing Growth:The Path to Personal Success

I consider myself a pretty successful person, but not in the conventional sense.

December 2023

How To Embrace What Truly Matters: A Guide to a Fulfilling Life

"It's not enough to keep yourself occupied," wrote Henry David Thoreau.

November 2023

A Guide to Discovering Your Values

Understanding your values is essential for a more satisfying and meaningful life, and recognizing the difference between values and opinions can save time and suffering.

November 2023

The gap is structural, not moral

You are not failing to change because you lack willpower. You are failing because nothing in your day is built to catch you when you try.

Constructive vs. Destructive Procrastination

"Society worships at the altar of constant productivity, but what if our greatest revolutions happen in the moments of conscious refusal to let anxiety guide our choices?"

September 2025

The Invisible Gap Between Knowing and Becoming

We live in an era where knowledge is abundant, yet wisdom is rare.

May 2025

Beyond Willpower: Cultivating Mindful Intention for a More Aligned Life

This article explores how replacing willpower with mindful intention can help create lasting positive changes.

May 2025

How to Integrate New Habits in Life's Turning Points

This article explores how life's major transitions—endings, transitions, and new beginnings—can be leveraged as opportunities to build intentional habits that foster personal growth and meaningful change.

April 2025

People, Places, and Things That Shape Your Life

A map exists inside each of us—not drawn in ink but etched with moments that have shaped us, with longings that pulse through our veins.

March 2025

Turning Mindfulness into a Habit

After reading this article, you'll gain a deeper understanding of:

November 2024

Personal Growth: It's not About Knowledge, it's About Practice

There are more self-help books than you'll ever have time to read, more self-improvement videos than you can ever watch, and more workshops and meditation retreats than you could possibly attend.

September 2024

Endings, Beginnings and the Transitions we Ignore

We left our small apartment in the old district of Montevideo late one Friday night, with the clothes on our backs and a single suitcase for my mom, my dad, and me.

March 2024

How to Stop Procrastinating 

After enduring years of anxiety, guilt, shame, and anger, life finally caught up with me when I was 28.

February 2024

Challenging The Path of Least Resistance

Society is grappling with an epidemic characterized by a strong desire for things that are fast, enjoyable, and effortless.

January 2024

Knowing When To Quit And When To Put In The Work

When you think about going to work, do you go through a sense of dread, or struggle to see yourself working there for a long time?

January 2024

Transformation is Something you Earn, not Something you Deserve

You deserve nothing and have no entitlement to anything or any progress in life.

November 2023

How to Master The Art of Following Through: Without Burning Out

Setting goals is easy, but following through and accomplishing them is often challenging.

November 2023

The Power of Notes to Self for Self-Improvement and Behavioral Change

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November 2023

11 Motivation Theories That Have Changed My Behavior and The Way I Live

Let’s start by defining motivation!

November 2023

The Art Of Letting Go of What no Longer Serves You

I have more than once found myself holding on to past relationships or friendships that were no longer fulfilling or healthy.

October 2023

Why You're Struggling to Change

Many believe they must know more before they can change a habit or have the right equipment or resources before changing it.

June 2023

The Dark Side of Cravings

As a former sugar, junk food, and caffeine addict, I have experienced that overwhelming emotional experience that cravings can have.

June 2023

The Cost of Procrastination

As the clock ticked to the deadline, I stared blankly at my computer screen and wondered how I got into this mess again.

June 2023

How To Take Your Life To The Next Level

As I sit in the dark of my cabin deep in the woods of southern Sweden at 5:00 in the morning, it’s not an unusual scenario for me to be writing.

June 2023

The Art of Navigating Change: Adapting, Thriving, and Achieving Success

Over the last several years, I have found myself in various situations that have required me to adjust to new and challenging conditions.

June 2023

How To Form and Maintaining New Habits

Whether you are aware of it or not, you are your habits.

June 2023

How To Accelerate Your Personal Growth

I have a confession to make: For the past ten years, I have been obsessed with a single question; My obsession with accelerated personal growth began when I started working on my self-awareness.

April 2023

The Confessions of a Recovering Procrastinator

As the clock ticks down and I get closer to my deadline, I stare blankly at my computer screen and wonder how I got into this mess again.

April 2023

The stories become the walls

Say a thing about yourself often enough and you stop noticing it is a sentence. You start treating it as a room.

The Dangers of Victimhood

I was stuck in victimhood for years.

October 2025

Writing, Thinking, and Falling in Love with The Process

In many spiritual traditions, the highest aim is to know thyself—a journey inward that demands honest self-examination, questioning thoughts, feelings, motivations, and assumptions.

October 2025

Seeing Life Through a Photographer's Eyes

I've been photographing the world.

October 2025

How Our Interpretations Shape Our Reality

"Observation is pure consciousness, a silent knowing that witnesses the unfiltered awareness of the present moment."

August 2025

Five Psychological Insights That has Transformed How I Think About Success and Failure

Salvador Dali's eccentric persona wasn't about artistic expression but a defensive shield against his deep-seated fear of failure.

August 2025

The Architecture of Self-Imposed Prisons

Despite life's boundless horizons, in the past I would find myself enclosed by invisible barriers — an architecture of limitation crafted not through external constraints, but through the quiet accumulation of self-cr…

June 2025

The Filter of Practical Value: My 10-Year Experiment in Intentional Living

This article explores how to create mental and emotional space for meaningful growth and authentic living.

April 2025

Attachment to Concepts: The Roots of Suffering

After reading this article, you'll gain a deeper understanding of:

November 2024

Limiting Personal Narratives: Barriers to Self-Improvement

After reading this article, you'll gain a deeper understanding of the power of personal narratives and their influence on self-improvement.

November 2024

Ten Things That Can't Be Understood by the Intellectual Mind

As I near 50 and reflect on my own experiences, I realize that logical thinking, while useful, can't fully grasp the complex, subjective, or intuitive aspects of life.

October 2024

Personal Growth from a Buddhist Perspective

Whether I am aware of it or not, my perception and interpretation of the world are a result of my perspective.

September 2024

How Words Transform Your Thinking and Behavior

A subtle shift in word choice has changed my outlook on life—my mindset, perceptions, and actions.

September 2024

9 Reasons You Keep Living the Life You don't Want to live

We all want better lives.

August 2024

From Reactive to Proactive: How Structured Thinking Changed My Life

My unstructured thinking and unwillingness to adopt pre-established systems of thinking in the past have been based on primely three things; my fear of change, making wrong decisions and not knowing who I am.

June 2024

From Conventional Thinking to Personal Freedom

For many years, I felt like I was running on a treadmill, going nowhere fast.

June 2024

How to improve Your Life Quality with the Sovereignty Mindset

Where does my story begin?

April 2024

10 Paradoxes That Could Be Holding You Back

In life, we often come across behavior or beliefs that initially seem beneficial or logical, but upon closer examination, prove to be counterproductive or damaging.

April 2024

Roadmap to Efficient Thinking: How Guidelines Can Improve Your Thinking Process

Do you ever feel like your thinking is going in circles?

March 2024

The Benefits of Self-Reflection and Pragmatic Thinking for Personal Growth

Most people spend years of their lives worrying about things they have no control over.

December 2023

How Asking the Right Questions Can Change Your Life

Have you ever felt stuck in a situation, not knowing how to move forward?

June 2023

The Importance of Understanding a Problem Before Solving It

In the days before road maps, I used to sit in the back of our old Ford Fiesta with headphones on to avoid hearing my dad shout at my mother whenever we got lost on holiday in Italy.

June 2023

How To Break Through Your Limiting Beliefs

Have you ever had a conversation that stayed with you for days?

June 2023
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