CARLOS VETTORAZZI

The Dance Between Doing and Being

10 December 2023
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Envision the tapestry of your life—vivid threads of achievements, possessions, and actions intricately woven together.

What happens when you unravel it? What remains when you strip away the external layers?

Have you ever felt that your life consists of a constant dance of doing? That you have relinquished your sense of identity in pursuit of more?

That you strived for accomplishment and praise yet feel an unexplained disconnection?

Do you feel less fulfilled the more you do, consume, and buy? If so, this article is for you.

The Endless Dance of Doing

Imagine yourself as a dancer on a stage.

Anticipation builds as you prepare for the next act, the music lingering in the air, ready to transport you into another world of artistic expression.

The applause becomes addictive, and as the next performance awaits, the cycle continues.

After a while, you move heavily from one act to another, with each applause blending into the next.

Behind the curtain, you yearn for a moment inactivity to cath your breath, to take a pause from the constant doing and embrace the stillness of being.

It is in these moments of calmness; you reflect and establish a deeper connection with your inner essence.

When was the last time you created space to connect with yourself?

Do you even know how to be, or how you are without the doing?

The Awakening: Shifting the Dance to Connection

Experiencing a profound shift in consciousness requires looking beyond the limitations of being a human “doing”.

Being human, rather than doing, allows for a deeper connection with your inner self, inner wisdom, and a greater spiritual reality.

This awakening, heightened sense of purpose, meaning, and interconnectedness with all beings and the universe can only be accessed from shifting the dance of doing to being in a state of connection.

When you prioritize connection, you cultivate self-awareness.

This self-awareness allows you to identify areas for personal growth and improvement. It enables you to stop the mindless doing and start making conscious choices that align with your values and aspirations, leading to a more fulfilling and purposeful life.

You build meaningful relationships with others and fostering empathy, compassion, and understanding in your interactions.

You shift your focus from doing to connecting with others on a deeper level, creating a supportive and nurturing environment that promotes personal growth and improvement.

When you shift your focus from doing to connection, it helps you in several ways:

You Gain Clarity: You gain clarity when you connect with yourself

This clarity allows you to set meaningful goals and make progress towards them.

You Cultivate Resilience: Connection provides a sound foundation for resilience.

Being connected with yourself, you develop a sense of inner strength and self-belief that helps you navigate challenges and setbacks with greater resilience and determination.

You Foster a Growth Mindset: Connection is the catalyst for a growth mindset, where you view the being as an opportunity for learning and growth.

You gladly welcome new experiences willing to take risks. You feel motivated and purposefully improving yourself.

Being is much harder than doing.

The reason is that it is often more challenging to embody specific qualities or characteristics than simply take action.

Being is like believing in a god for which you have no proof of existence.

Carlos Vettorazzi

Improved Emotional Well-being: Connection with yourself allows you to understand and manage your emotions more effectively.

It enables you to cultivate self-compassion and develop healthy coping mechanisms, leading to enhanced emotional well-being.

You prioritize Meaningful Relationships: You swap the doing for connection with others as you realize they play a vital role in your personal improvement and growth.

This connection fosters a supportive and nurturing environment that empowers you to let go of your limiting beliefs, attachments, and ego-driven desires.

It encourages embracing qualities such as love, compassion, gratitude, and mindful being and doing.

What if, amidst this dance, you made a pivotal choice — tired of the relentless routine; you slow down and connect with the music’s essence?

The applause becomes background noise, and the dance, though slower, becomes more intentional and meaningful.

The threads of connection become your guiding rhythm, leading to a calmer and more profound alignment with your true purpose in life.

Who Are You Without the Doing?

When the music stops and the stage goes silent, as you unravel yourself from the dance for the first time in your life, a profound question emerges:

My wife puts it like this:

Many people derive their self-esteem from what they’re doing.

When the music comes to a halt, they realize that they derived their entire existence from their actions, experiencing a profound sense of unworthiness.

To add to this statement, when the doing becomes a lifestyle, it feels more like a prison.

It’s a moment of introspection where you stand in stillness, devoid of the praise, possessions, and constant doing that have defined your existence until now.

You are given the chance to strip away the facades and explore your innermost being, discovering your true identity.

Now that I presented you with a chance to delve into the depths of your being, to explore your passions, values, and purpose, will you take it?

Or will you continue to prioritize doing at the expense of stillness, your hidden desires, and untapped potential for self-discovery and self-realization?

Take a moment to imagine yourself in that stillness, free from the noise and busyness of the doing, and connect with a deeper understanding of who you are.

To Reconnect with Yourself: Disconnect From The Constant Doing

The never-ending demands of my own “doing” kept me disconnected from my true essence.

Striving to achieve more, accumulate more, and be more, I lost myself and eventully I burned out.

I reduced myself to a human doing.

My accomplishments and external validation measured my self-worth, as I sought happiness and praise in all the wrong things.

Reflecting on the past, I realize that by constantly staying busy; I avoided self-reflection, being vulnerable in my interactions.

Look at the tapestry of your life—the vibrant threads of achievements, possessions, and actions intricately woven together.

What happens when you begin to unravel it?

What remains when you strip away the external layers of your doing?

You lose touch with your inner voice, passions, and values. Your focus belongs to on the external world, neglecting your inner world.

Life is a spiritual quest within oneself, most of the time independent of external realities, even if we want to think otherwise.

What if, amidst this constant doing, you made a pivotal choice? To slow down and connect with the essence of your being?

Shifted your focus from external validation to internal fulfillment?

Do you know how to do that?

Are you able to create fulfillment and satisfaction from within yourself, rather than relying on external achievements or validation?

When was the last time you sat down to connect with your inner self, explore your passions, values, and purpose, and align your actions with your personal values and aspirations?

This internal sense of fulfillment goes beyond external success.

Taking the time to pause and reflect allows you to create space for yourself to be. It enables you to reconnect with your inner self, rediscover your passions, values, and purpose.

Final Thoughts

When the music stops and the stage goes silent, when the dance of doing fades away, who are you?

Embrace the dance between being and doing if you want to lead a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Take a moment to imagine yourself in that stillness, free from the noise and busyness of constant doing.

Connect with a deeper understanding of who you are.

Embrace the beauty of introspection and self-reflection, and allow yourself to thrive in both the dance of doing and the calm of being.

What becomes possible when you turn the dance of doing into the connection of being?


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